If you file a restraining order against someone, they are not allowed to email you directly, *EVEN IF* you checked the “allow service by e mail” box. they have to do it through the sheriff’s office.
pertinent part is:
“(ii) Service by electronic means must be made by a law enforcement agency, unless the petitioner elects to have the respondent served by any person who is not a party to the action, is 18 years of age or older and competent to be a witness, and can provide sworn proof of service to the court as required. Court authorization permitting electronic service is not required except in cases specified in (a)(i)(A) through (D) of this subsection. In those cases, either request of the petitioner, or good cause for granting an order for electronic service, such as two failed attempts at personal service, are required to authorize service by electronic means. No formal motion is necessary.
Full pdf of the RCW is attached here:
RCW-7.105.150-methods.of.service
Original .gov document is here: https://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=7.105.150
